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Your decisions don’t have to make sense
UT Theory can help you avoid the spiral of over-analysis.
Something felt off about my fiance. Sure, we enjoyed the sex. The intellectual pillow talk. And. Um. The sex.
Did I mention the sex?
Our lives were heading down different paths. Mine stretched out toward a fulfilling career, his toward a very fine collection of anime. Despite his philosophy degree, he often behaved like a sophomore.
We got into fights over board games. And party invitations. Once or twice, he flirted with other girls and went on dates with them, mainly to make me feel jealous. It worked.
No, I shouldn’t have put up with this nonsense. But I did. My intuition said to dump him. But the rest of me didn’t listen.
Then one day I fell in love with someone else. Someone I’d met at a conference. We’d kept in touch. Out of the blue, or maybe the grey, he called me. We chatted. A day later, he sent me a selfie.
Not the dirty kind. But there was something about it. Clearly flirtatious. And I liked it. Really liked it. With a thunderclap, that’s when I knew my current relationship was over.
It didn’t feel emotional, or impulsive. Just inevitable. Sometimes you know what to do. Even if you can’t…
