Who’s afraid of Virginity Wo(o)lf?
Your first time doesn’t have to be a love story.
Maybe I threw my virginity away. Or maybe I didn’t. My first time didn’t happen the way I planned. No bed full of rose petals for this girl. Just a bag of weed. And a shack in the woods.
Some of us think our first time has to be special. Magical. A teen romance novel. It if wasn’t, then maybe we made a mistake. But why? Lots of times, sex is simply awkward. Frightening. Or funny.
There’s a good chance you’ve already had sex if you’re reading this. But maybe you didn’t enjoy it as much as you felt like you should’ve. Like somehow you missed out. Screwed it up. Banged the wrong person.
Nonsense. You don’t have to get sex perfect. Or even right. We screw up lots of things the first try.
Maybe you remember learning how to ride a bike. Sex goes a lot like that. Except you’re learning how to ride a person.
Your first time might not even mean the same thing to your partner as it does to you. Because surprise. You partner might not be a virgin. For them, your first time might be their tenth.
My first time happened like this
In college I worked at a bohemian bar where hipsters sold drugs in the bathroom. Everybody…
