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What Makes a Relationship Last
#6 —pretend to have a good time.
A relationship lasts as long as you put work into it. There’s no other way to know how many months or years you’ll be with someone.
All you can do is your half.
That said, there’s a handful of big things that go into a solid relationship. You can’t skimp on them. That’s what doing your half means.
1. You admire things about them
There’s a lot to see in someone besides an Instagram body or a rock star salary. Maybe they read a lot, or they’re the most patient person you know, or they make you laugh like nobody else can.
Whatever that is, appreciate it.
Tell them.
A relationship can survive lots of ups and downs as long as you still make an effort to see what’s unique about the person you love.
2. You’re different around them
Someone you love brings out a different side of you, something that not many other people get to see. It might even be something you didn’t know was there, or had forgotten about. A relationship will last as long as you still bring out the best hidden things in each other.
