The Sexiest Things You Can Ever Do for Her

Guaranteed to blow her mind, anytime.

Brag about her to your friends

Almost nothing is sexier than telling all your friends that your wife or girlfriend has good news to share. Promote them a little. That shows you really see her value.

Make friends with her vibrator

You know she’s got one. Don’t make her hide it in a little plastic container under the bed, or wait until you’re out of earshot. Once you start having sex, ask about it. Let the vibrator into your sex life.

Be willing to try new things

What makes you interesting isn’t just the life you already have, but the life you’re going to build with someone. Try out new restaurants. Go on trips together. Take classes together.

Remember her birthday, and get it right

This is one date you should memorize ASAP. Find out what she likes, including the kind of cake.

Craft your own rich personal life

They say you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. That’s not exactly true, but it points to something that is.

Work on your emotional intelligence

Dealing with your emotions is sexy. Hiding them isn’t. Someone who conforms to masculine stereotypes isn’t strong and independent. Their emotions leak out in all kinds of toxic ways.

Let her have a life outside of you

You can’t expect someone to give up their life to slide into yours. Whoever you date has their own friends and routines. They’ll want to do some things that don’t include you.

Make yourself an equal contributor

A shared life gets messy. Once you move in together, you’ve got double the amount of dishes and laundry. The bathrooms get dirty twice as fast. A sexy man understand that.

Taking care of someone is sexy

All of this advice works regardless of your gender. It’s about attending to little details and nuance. It’s about taking care of yourself, and her, and both of you over the long haul.

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