The 7 Secrets of Being Weird and Unlikable
For some of us, it works.
“Honestly, I couldn’t stand you at first.”
I’ve heard that a few times, usually from people I barely knew. A while back, there was this one woman who kept thanking me for a favor I did. It felt weird. I asked her what was up.
At last, she dropped her facade.
“I actually don’t like you.”
Oh, okay.
I’m on the autism spectrum. The habits and life hacks that allegedly work for everyone else land flat for me.
That’s one of the reasons I get so irritated at all the advice out there. Not only does it not work, it harms us. It sets us up for failure, and it reinforces expectations that make our lives that much harder. It confuses us. It makes it harder for us to trust people.
I don’t want someone to pretend to be nice to me if they secretly hate my guts. I want them to leave me alone.
People like us have to grow a much more organic approach to life to get anything we want. It’s hard. It’s painful. It requires a lot of trial and error. We have to find our own way.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
