Success Doesn’t Feel Like an Orgasm

Sometimes you don’t even know what to do with it.

Success can feel weird.

We think we know how to feel and act after a big win. We don’t. Not always. Not all of us. Sometimes it feels weird. Like you don’t know what to do with yourself. And that’s fine. Let yourself feel weird.

Success doesn’t demand a spotlight.

The first thing many of us want to do with our success is share it far and wide. You’re supposed to do that, right? Everyone else does. Sometimes, maybe. But only if you want to. Some victories feel better in private.

Success doesn’t have to feel like Christmas morning.

Maybe you shouldn’t force yourself to feel something that doesn’t exist. Your best moments don’t have to make you burst into song.

Success doesn’t have to surprise you.

Imagine the labor and planning that went into your last success. You didn’t just go to sleep one night and wake up to find a promotion under your pillow. You assembled it over time, piece by piece. You made it. Enjoying something you made feels different.

Success makes you a little tired.

What really floods over some of us is a feeling of relief. A victory can make you suddenly realize how much work you’ve done.

Success can come in a steady stream.

Lots of us live for the viral moment. That’s about as close to Christmas morning as some of us get anymore. Who hasn’t gone to bed hoping they’ll wake up to a huge spike in traffic on their site?

Success is just permission to keep going.

Success isn’t about the orgasm moment. And it’s not about the bling. In my 20s, I used to display my plaques and diplomas and starred book reviews on the wall of my apartment. Inspiration, right?

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store