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Our Marriage Was Falling Apart. Here’s How We Saved It.
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Our friends were all getting divorced.
Were we next?
We told each other that would never happen. Then we started drifting toward private islands. It happened after our first kid. We put on a little weight. We stopped having sex. We stopped flirting.
We thought we were having conversations, but we were really just exchanging small talk before going off to separate parts of the house.
We were tired, and we wanted to be alone.
We told ourselves it was okay.
It wouldn’t last forever.
We had “the talk.”
One night I sat next to my husband in a living room cluttered with toys. I asked him, “Are you happy? Because I’m not...”
He looked at me. “Not really.”
I let him go first.
He told me the lack of physical connection bothered him. We also didn’t talk about anything serious anymore.
It bothered him a little how much time we spent alone. It felt like we were seeking comfort in other things instead of each other.
