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If You Love Someone, You Must Be Stupid
Love can’t make sense.
My friend fell in love in the back of a police car. She got there because of me. I wanted to see a haunted asylum.
That’s how she met him, a bartender who’d come along with our group. Even in handcuffs, they couldn’t stop flirting. They went on their first date right after the cops let us all go with a warning.
A year later, they got married.
We never should’ve been there. But if we hadn’t, they never would’ve met. The lesson here is simple: Love is fundamentally stupid. It’s not juggling chainsaws stupid. It’s two people flirting in the back of a police car stupid. If you want love, you have to kick off your logic. You have to let go of your self-preservation instincts, and let yourself be naive.
That’s how it works.
Love is a series of stupid mistakes.
One of my other friends moved to Oregon last year to be with someone she loves. They didn’t get engaged first.
She just flew out there.
That’s stupid when you think about it. No part of her decision made sense to anyone. That’s the thing about love. It’s the opposite of reason. You take big risks and see how they work out.
