How to Please Her Better in Bed

The bedroom isn’t a place to prove your masculinity

Stop and think for a minute about the toxic phrases that still surround sex. Men say things like “smash that” or “tap that” or describe sex as banging and boning. Men brag about their sexual prowess in the most violent ways, talking about how they “destroyed her.”

Play with her hair

Great sex starts with arousal. Take a spin on social media, and count the number of girls who tweet longingly about a man who plays with their hair while telling them how great they are.

Learn her erogenous zones

They are:

  • Sweep of her spine
  • Breasts
  • Armpits and crooks of her elbows
  • Wrists, palms, and tops of fingers
  • Hips and lower abdomen
  • Backs of her knees
  • Ankles, and foot arches

Why don’t YOU wear something sexy?

Hardly anyone ever talks about lingerie for men. (And they don’t really call it lingerie.) But you can invest in some silk boxers or pajamas. Find some sleepwear that she’ll enjoy taking off.

Ask what turns her on

Find out where she likes to be touched, and how. Talk about her fantasies, and yours. Hold nothing back.

Try more foreplay and practice sex

You have to practice to get good at anything, and sex is no different. You need to plan for sex focused on simply learning what feels good to her. Give each other feedback. Show some willingness to mess up.

Do other nice things in bed

You can give her a massage. You can cuddle before sex. You can feed each other silly things like chocolate strawberries.

Get yourself in the mood

It’s a myth that guys can have sex pretty much anytime of day. Men deal with stress and emotions that impact their performance. Before initiating sex, do a little work on yourself.

Learn how to kiss

Kissing happens a lot during the early stages of dating, and then apparently fades when sex takes hold.

Stop watching porn all by yourself

Most mainstream porn doesn’t portray the best practices when it comes to sex. The solution isn’t to ban yourself from it.

Make sex less selfish

You should both enjoy sex. You should both try and learn from each other. After sex, do some debrief.

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