How to Handle Your Kink

Stop feeling ashamed. Start communicating.

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Almost anything turns someone on. Feet. Elves. Superheroes. Robots. Penguins. Robot penguins. There’s even a fetish circle devoted to Flo, the girl from the car insurance commercials.

Hey, there’s just something about Flo.

Fetish used to come with a waterfall of shame. Once upon a time, it even qualified as a kind of sexual disorder. These days, not so much. People are starting to understand. You don’t decide what turns you on. If you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no problem.

One in three people either have a fetish, or participate in one for their partner. It’s not weird anymore.

So let’s finally stop pretending.

You can’t afford to keep your fetish a secret. At least not from yourself. Sexual satisfaction lies at the center of everyone’s well being. That means you have to accept and satisfy your sexuality. Even if you’re asexual — you have to accept that and make it part of what you do.

Stop telling yourself you have to have vanilla sex. Or sex from crazy positions, described to you in some handbook published in New York.

Sideways sex in a steam room sounds impressive. But there’s no resume in the sex world. Only what feels good.