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Your Own Personal Love Language
Reach out and touch love
There’s one big secret to loving someone — and that’s loving them on their own terms. Not yours. You can shower someone with tender kisses, and they’ll still feel unloved.
That’s the real message behind Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages. There could be more than five, or less. Something you consider a “gift” might look like an act of service to someone else.
You might need something that’s not addressed by any of the love languages. It doesn’t matter. You still need it.
Or you need to give it.
Last week I posted my own spin, describing a sixth love language as distance, or personal space. So far it’s helped a lot of people who felt a certain need, but couldn’t explain it. It’s something I’ve struggled with in my own relationships, which is why I wrote it.
A few people saw the post as a chance to point out how I’d misinterpreted the 5 love languages. As expected, the trolls came calling.
Here’s an especially lovely comment:
Someone didn’t actually read the books on the Five Love Languages.
Respecting your partner’s need for space is covered in simple respect — Gifts of Space, the Service of Doing Something Alone, these things are actually…
