Here's something I didn't go into but have in other pieces: I've met plenty of women who oversubscribed to their "pretty privilege" to the point where they were unable to function without it (as in they don't even know how to use packing tape), which is a horrible thing because like you say, it's something you can't hold on to. White male privilege? It's much more enduring, and look at how white males act whenever it's threatened, or whenever it's denied to them...