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Give Virgins a Chance
You might be glad you did.
You finally meet that special someone. They check all your boxes. Smart. Attractive. Funny. No felony arrests. And you have so much in common. It’s like space aliens cloned you, but changed just enough so it doesn’t feel weird when you bone. Except there’s one little thing.
They’re a virgin. And they’re almost thirty.
Some might pass that up. But you shouldn’t. I’m glad I didn’t. Like most labels, sexual history only shows you one part of a person.
Specifically, their past.
Labels like “virgin” tell you nothing about their present, or they’re future. The only way you can tell if someone’s right for you is to actually date them. Pay attention to how they make you feel.
We get so wrapped up in profiles and personality traits. We forget that people are messy, contradictory, and surprising.
Let’s rewind. A few years ago, my friends and I sat in a bar, browsing a potential bae’s Facebook page.
I was swiping right on his photos, symbolically.
He was friends with my friends, and they wanted to hook us up. Despite our radically different backgrounds, they thought we’d be perfect for each other. It was almost funny the way his virginity came up — as if my friends were…
